In light of everything going on of late in this community once more, I’d like to make this post. It seems like I’m making one of these every so often as yet another drama hits. I guess that’s a testament to this place too.. in all the four years I’ve been here, there’s almost never been a dull moment.
Over the past two days, you’ve seen me post about my disbelief in a particular spiritual concept that quite a few people in this community do believe in. I initially thought that I would get a lot of shit for the way I expressed myself there, but the opposite has happened: I have received nothing but gracious messages about these two posts. I’m grateful for that, as there’s nothing quite so tiring as getting a lot of shit for voicing a personal opinion. Around May last year, I began getting a lot of spiritual questions that I answered as candidly as I do the factual questions. I hardly received shit from anyone for that back then, either, though I’m sure that it was an exhausting thing to wade through. It eventually led to me refusing to speak about it again or answer any questions on the matter on this blog, but that doesn’t mean that my spirituality doesn’t influence what I post here.
I am surprised and slightly dismayed that the gracious understanding and support that’s always been extended toward me cannot be extended to other people in this community. I understand perfectly well that there can be disagreement and annoyance about some posts, believe me. Anyone who’s heard me go “oh jeez not another one” in utter frustration over this twinflame-thing in private can attest that I’m not above headdesking about some things myself. Feel free to disagree – that’s what makes us individuals. But feeling free to disagree shouldn’t mean sending people hateful messages for posting about the things that they believe in. I am a firm believer in the unfollow-button in case anybody really gets on my last nerve, but more than that.. I’m a believer in making your own reality happen.
I have had a hard time posting of late, as I’m sure you’ve all noticed. There are days and weeks in which I’m totally silent on the subject, despite the fact that there are usually quite a few messages sitting in my inbox waiting to be answered. I struggle with the subject lately, to the point where even the release of Sue’s book didn’t get me excited. Writing about it doesn’t come as easily as it once did, nor does it make me feel right emotionally. Yet, I post the things I want to see in this community when I do decide to post. I love factual posts, discussions about the case, dissections of the psyches of these two boys, the occasional post about the victims.. That’s what I came here to talk about four years ago and that’s what I still like to talk about today. I’m not a flower crown person or someone who dresses like the boys did, so that’s not my content. I don’t like talking about spiritual experiences in public, either, so I’ve taken all conversation about it into private chats and dropped it from my blog almost entirely. I create my own blog to be what I like to see in this community – I walk my own talk, so to speak.
Do I get frustrated when it seems like almost nobody else wants to go as in-depth about it as I do? Of course I do. Does it occasionally get on my nerves to see the same reblogs of the same pictures over and over and over without anything interesting being added to it? I’m not gonna lie – it really does. Am I fond of all this rampant spiritual and psychic stuff that’s been making the rounds of late? It’s a subject close to my own interests, but it’s gotten tiring to see it soak up the majority of content at times. But I also ask myself “what are you gonna do about it?”.. and the answer is never “send all these people hateful shit and forbid all the flower crowns from happening”. That’s not gonna solve a damn thing. If anything, it’s just going to make people cling to what they believe in even more tightly.
Y’all know that saying of “be the change you want to see in the world”, right? If you don’t like what you see, put out there what you want to see instead. Post the things that interest you. Hell, start a discussion and tag a blogger like myself in it to join you. Dive into that 11k and pick out something that stands out to you at that point in time. Compare their journals to the real-life events that were taking place at that time – they dated these things, so tracing them back in the narrative can be fun! Watch a documentary and rip the expert opinions in it to shreds with your own evidence. Do a chapter-by-chapter read of a book on the matter the way I did with Cullen’s tripe and post it in all its hilarious glory. Answer questions about the case in more than a one-liner: challenge yourself to put together a narrative to rival the official narrative. You may find that you’ll get less concerned with what other people do on their blogs when you’re getting likes and reblogs and messages about your own things and getting discussions and compliments in your IM from people who’re just as into the research-thing as you are!