reb-vodka-arlene:

Eric’s anger management essay

Also known as the masterclass in bullshitting and telling people exactly what they wanted to hear, haha. It all starts in the person’s mind, indeed.. but emotions aren’t so easily reasoned with, and Eric’s hold on those was loose at best. Diversion’s always looked quite ineffective to me – not just because the boys went ahead with the massacre anyway, but also because it clearly addressed things on a superficial level to the point where writing an impersonal essay on anger management was tolerated. Fine to tell the world what you learned from an anger management class, dude, but how are you going to apply any of that? Fine to say you recognise the four stages of anger, but how are you going to shake yourself out of any one such stage without feeling like you’re compromising on yourself? It’s all a lot harder than it rationally looks for sure. Prime example of JeffCo dropping the ball once more.

So…was Eric a psychopath?

I don’t think he was. I don’t buy it. Keep in mind that everyone who has ever called him one has done so post-mortem. They have not once spoken with Eric, nor have they spoken with people who knew him well in a setting that would make those people largely unbiased toward Eric. After doing what he did, I think many people lost the ability to speak favourably of him – people remember the bad you’ve done far more than they remember the good, particularly when they’re being asked about you after you’ve done something horrendous the way Eric did. Also, funny thing, you cannot set a post-mortem diagnosis for anyone. You simply can’t. I’ve detailed the reasons why here, but let’s assume for the sake of this conversation that there is not a credible psychologist in the history of anything who’d accept the post-mortem psychopathy diagnosis for Eric Harris.

There are plenty of problems with that diagnosis anyway. No psychiatric or psychological organisation has ever sanctioned a diagnosis titled “psychopathy”. The closest thing to it in the DSM-V is probably Antisocial Personality Disorder, while the closest thing to it in ICD being Dissocial Personality Disorder. It’s a particular type of diagnosis that is still subjected to a lot of research, because we simply don’t have all the ducks in a row when it comes to definitively settling on what would constitute ‘psychopathy’ and finding out how it’s wired in your brain. There are several tests out there that might be able to tell you if you fall within the currently accepted checklist of psychopathy, but keep in mind that most of the folks falling in line with some of that won’t actually exhibit problematic behaviour in everyday life. It’s something you can function with quite well. Remember the neuroscientist who found out in his research that his brain functions correlate with the brain functions of people who’ve exhibited psychopathic tendencies? 😉

Back to Eric, though, because I would gladly talk neuropsychology and every other aspect of diagnosis and research for hours if you let me. =P Thing is, he might have had some brain functions that’d correlate with psychopathic tendencies. He might’ve. Just like I might, or you might, or someone else reading this might. But, and this is a far bigger probability by far: he might be the furthest thing from an actual psychopath. Every single one of his behaviours can be explained through other means than an unstable diagnosis. Every word he has ever written can be contextualised into something that doesn’t speak a word of diagnosis, of comorbidity, of checklists, of brain functions. 

Want to know what his behaviour and words speak about instead? Then settle down at the basis. Settle in his childhood and in that sense of being uprooted every time, never staying anywhere for long and having to start from scratch over and over again. Settle in his childhood and see the timid kid who was said to be terrified of letting people down. Who hid from the world in every possible way when something scared him. Who was sensitive to everyone and everything, but fighting tooth and nail for what he believed was right. That kid who wanted to be the big hero. That kid who wanted to be wanted. Wanted to be heard and validated and understood. Eric is a lot like that at his core, and he let all of that evolve into something that eventually ended up swamping him. He is not different from many sensitive children who’ve experienced multiple rounds of uprootment and live with that inner drive to be perfect because they feel it’s what is expected of them. He is not any different from some of the kids I used to work with. I can’t count the amount of teenagers to whom “I hate the fucking world!” isn’t some kind of anthem. It sure as hell was one for me. What sets Eric apart from any of us, huh? The fact that he killed people? Wanted to bomb the school? All he did different from any one of us was that he chose to act on what he thought was right, on what he believed would wake humanity up and kickstart a revolution. He was still playing the hero, just not one who gets the girl or is recognised as being such. And, yes, that is problematic. That is damaging. And that’s confrontational as hell.

When I see Eric, I see that lost kid who didn’t know what the fuck to do with himself. I don’t see a psychopathic genius. I see someone who got hurt and decided to lash his hurt back out at the world. I see a divided mind, I see someone who built up a front for himself that everybody fucking bought into. And when I can see all of that in him, then it becomes pretty damn apparent that maybe – just maybe – there is an alternative story to the one of the psychopath running amok. Maybe there’s a chance that Eric was far more human than everybody wants us to believe. He’s not the monster hiding under our beds. He might be the dude flashing us a smile in the mirror, though, when we dare look. Was Eric Harris a psychopath? I don’t think so. I think that the post-mortem diagnosis has done far more harm than good. I think it has no place whatsoever in a dialogue about Eric Harris and certainly not in a dialogue about prevention of school violence. I think it doesn’t help our kids, or those of us who’re feeling some kind of kinship with him. I think none of the official talk helps at all. What helps is making someone human and relatable. That’s all I feel matters. We need empathy instead of judgment. The psychopath term only closes a great many doors instead of opening them.

I feel really guilty for thinking that Eric is attractive…but I honestly think he could have done such more with his life if he’d gone to therapy and straightened himself out…I don’t condone the murders at all but I get more sad thinking about him and Dylan than the innocent people they killed, which is pretty fucked up….

I don’t think that’s really something to feel guilty about. Finding someone attractive isn’t really something you can help, you know? I like Eric’s megawatt smile and think that that’s a really attractive feature of his. And, you know what, the world doesn’t end with that admission. It’s a human thing to experience that kind of attraction to somebody, and it doesn’t automatically translate into condoning the godawful shit that this person got up to. (Some people say that they will automatically lose the attraction once they know what terrible shit a guy like Eric has done, but I think there are different forms and gradations of attraction so he could easily fit in one of those while still being in your “hell nope I’m gonna kick you in the shins”-category at the same time. ^^)

Thing is, Eric did go to therapy in a near-futile attempt to straighten himself out. He went through the run of the mill with tests and diagnoses, from what I can tell, and was even put on two different medications to help him gain more control over his life. His therapist’s files were never released, but knowing Eric’s tendency to lie and gloss over things that mattered deeply.. I sincerely doubt that his therapist came close to actually knowing and comprehending Eric. The boy was a lot of talk. He needed somebody to go “cut the crap, Eric” – he needed to be challenged to break that self-defeating cycle of externalised self-loathing. It’s a pity that never happened, and I admit that it makes me angry and sad to see how mischaracterised he has become as a result.

You know, I think it’s not an oddity to feel such sadness for Eric and Dylan. We know far more about them than we know about their victims. We’ve read their journals, seen their videos, had detailed witness accounts about them, really got to know them on some level.. It’s natural to find it in ourselves to empathise with them when they have become so human to us. Still, it’s good to also step away from them and explore the lives that were cut short in the wake of their actions. There are some marked similarities between them and some of their victims. Various people have said that the boys could’ve found some good friends in them – I am inclined to agree on that note. Those kids and that teacher were and continue to be vibrant and inspiring souls.. It is a pity that their lives were cut short so abruptly and it saddens me that they didn’t get to do what they’d dreamed of doing, though I can certainly also empathise with their killers at the same time. It’s a bit of a cognitive dissonance that way, right?

Do you think that Eric and Dylan’s friendship was more important to Eric than Dylan?

It does seem that way when you compare their answers on the diversion questionnaire to each other, yes. Dylan answers that they’ve been very good friends for about 4 years. Eric, instead, describes Dylan as his ‘best friend — past and current’. As the questionnaire was completed in early ‘98, that would’ve given them about a year to solidify their friendship bond into something that would eventually turn into “we will kill and die together”. That kind of plan takes a whole lot of trust in each other to see this through to its end — I think that they even got to the stage where they wouldn’t have backed out of the plan during those final months just for the sake of the other person. The fact that they weren’t known to argue or be at long-term odds during that last year of their lives is pretty telling in terms of how strong their friendship actually was, too.

Eric was someone who poisoned a lot of friendships for himself. He was known to argue about petty stuff. He could stew about inane stuff for weeks and months and get so vehement about disliking somebody that he wouldn’t see reason. Dylan was quite literally the go-between when Eric and Brooks had their famous spat, after all, and Eric would never have been the first to make amends in any case as long as he felt he was in the right. (And a guy like Eric tends to convince himself he’s right all the time, because being wrong is simply not an option and leaves him far too vulnerable..) Eric clung to the people who got along with him and gave him the time of day. He needed to feel needed, and he needed empathy and the companionship of someone who was just as disenchanted with the world as he was. I think that Eric knew rationally how to approach people and how to handle relationships, but that his emotions often got in his way when it came to actually executing those bright ideas. He doesn’t seem to have had a handle on his emotional life, which reflects in the way that many of his friendships backfired on him because he couldn’t deal with people and people couldn’t deal with him. But in Dylan, he had found someone who would put up with his shit and level with him on anything — I think that they had many a good discussion and mutual gripe-sessions about the world today.

Dylan was perfect in that respect, really. Dylan was the dude that people said they’d never seen ‘this’ coming from — there was genuine shock at his involvement in the massacre. I think that Dylan was very good at making people like him, though he would never see it that way himself, and that he was the easier of the two to befriend and chill out with. Dylan was well-liked by many and had quite the bunch of friends surrounding him, though he always lamented his perceived solitude and felt quite separate from most of humanity a lot of the time. He seems to have had a natural disposition to be the balancing factor and perhaps even the mediator, stepping in whenever smartmouth Eric was going overboard and helping to defuse any trouble that arose in the lives of people he liked. Dylan seems to have been a genuinely caring sort — you would have to earn your place with him if you really wanted to have a mutually reciprocal friendship, but he would not turn on you on a whim and would sooner shut up himself than tell you to shut up if he got annoyed with you. Dylan sat on his anger a lot and bottled things up like crazy, while Eric seemed to always have that live wire beneath the surface that could spark at any given moment.

In many ways, I think they were each other’s balancing act. Columbine could never have been pulled off if they were not each other’s true equals. If either of them had not seen the other as a ‘complete person’ worthy of respect and appreciation, the relationship between them would have been skewed to the point where it would not have been the symbiosis it obviously was. Those boys fed into and off each other. They build up this plan to kill and die together — how many guys that age know what they’re gonna do next week, let alone next month or next year? They each brought something different to the table. Neither could have done this without the other. They each needed a different kind of encouragement, a different kind of presence. Dylan was Eric’s calm before the massacre — during, it was Eric who was the quiet presence at Dylan’s loud back. Eric was Dylan’s ‘get off your ass and fucking get with the program’-kick beforehand — during, it was Dylan who was organising things and checking in with Eric to see if he was still with the program. That flip, that role reversal.. it was seamless. It couldn’t have been that seamless if one of them was more vested in the friendship than the other. They may have started out as ‘very good friends for years’ and as ‘best friend past and present’ a year before, but I think by the time they ended things they were ‘brothers’.

How should we deal with “columbiners” on tumblr who own firearms?

cerebralzero:

I figured I would throw this out there to get a public opinion.

After it became public knowledge that the failed mass shooting attempt in Halifax Canada was planned by columbiners on tumblr I think that it’s time we need to figure out how to handle this situation and avert future unnecessary death.

Please signal boost. We as a community need to work on this together.

The same as you deal with everybody else who owns firearms? Seriously, it’s not rocket science that people are responsible for every tragedy out there and that firearms may merely be an assisting tool in that light. Columbine in itself was planned out as a bombing, not a shooting, and Eric and Dylan were only armed with firearms because they intended to shoot the survivors and engage law enforcement in a shootout once they showed on-scene. It’s quite odd to see that virtually every mass shooting done ‘in their honour’ does not have the bomb equation factored into it, though that was their original plan and one you would think their hero-worshipping next generation would seek to fulfill. I am, however, very grateful that this is not the case. (Don’t go getting any ideas, either, readers of mine – if I find that any of you are taking these words to heart, you’ll find one hell of a problem from mama dragon to contend with.) 

I’ll not claim to comprehend the wildfire ownership of firearms. I live in a country where their use is heavily prohibited/monitored and restricted to law enforcement, hunters, and members of shooting ranges. (I guess that makes me one of the ‘safer’ Columbine researchers, lol, in that none of you will have to worry about me getting any completely idiotic ideas about following in the footsteps of the boys I choose to research and write about.) Yet, it’s apparent to me that the ownership of these firearms in itself is not truly the issue. I’ve met many a responsible firearm owner over the years, and they were every bit as thoughtful and open about their lives and ideas as I am about mine as well. It’s the manifestos that worry me instead. It’s the offhand small comments that concern me. It’s the hero worship at the altars of Eric and Dylan that makes me shake my head and say “okay, this ain’t good”.

And it’s true that some will grow out of it no problem, that some use this as a means to expression and nothing more, that some are just going through a really rough patch in life and need the support of our community to pull them through (and we have done so in the past, believe me on that).. but it’s also true that some, like James and the others who got arrested concerning the Halifax plot, slip through the mazes of our net and end up very much like the people we write and research about every day. You want to deal with Columbiners who own firearms? Don’t. What you should be dealing with, is with any individual in any community (not just ours, as we’re just the visible ones) who vocalises clear warning signs that something’s not quite right in their world. Sometimes personal messages will suffice. Other times, well, a report might be inevitable. Dialogue is important. Comprehension, even more so. Comprehension and validation isn’t about getting down to the same level and encouraging someone to go do something unforgivable and unretractable. It’s merely about saying “I recognise that this is how you feel and I would like you to help me understand what it is about”. Judgement doesn’t fix anything. Making assumptions doesn’t, either. Being human with somebody? That just might do the trick.

Hiding in Plain Sight [2006 article]

It’s been seven years since the pair walked into Columbine for the last
time, guns blazing. The world has other monsters on its mind now. Yet
there are people who still contend that the words the killers left
behind are so powerful, so evil that the average citizen must never hear
them.

The truth hurts. But the lies can be lethal.

Excellent old article about the basement tapes, as well as the cover-up attempts from JeffCo and other officials, that forms one hell of a strong voice against the so-called ‘copycat’-argument that has been cited time and time again as the reason why some of the evidence never saw the light of day. Want the perfect counter to that argument? Here it is. Crystal clear, voiced not only here but on my blog and in other places countless times.

The world has created its perfect monsters. The world has looked at this, looked at Eric and Dylan, and considered the act and its perpetrators evil. But, so much more than this.. they are human. The act itself, however much we like to deny this for ourselves, is human – callously, brutally, unforgivingly human. It is this that forms the greatest counter to the fear that has lived in law enforcement, educators, and parents: when you humanise Eric and Dylan, the truth will come to you. And that truth is, they weren’t anything different from you or me. They are, perhaps, the world’s ugliest mirror to some, throwing all the chaos of anger and bitterness and hatred out into the open for you to deal with. To others, they are recognition points and voices that carry you when you feel like you can’t make another step. But whatever they are, whatever they were, human is what defines them. Not gods. Not devils. Human beings.

“It’s true that the gunmen wanted their words to find as wide an audience as possible in order to attract followers; but then, they, like the
sheriff’s office, had an exaggerated notion of their own importance. The
county’s efforts to suppress the killers’ writings and tapes have given
them a cachet of consummate evil and menace; being taboo, they’ve
become cool. Yet anyone who’s actually seen the tapes or read the
journal fragments soon recognizes that these fabled mass murderers are
not gods but adolescents. Angry, scared, mocking, disturbed, bitter,
pathological, deluded (fucking self-aware, mind you), emotionally
stunted and deadly, but adolescents just the same. Behind the blather
about being gods and kick-starting a revolution is a bottomless
obsession with their own lack of status and sense of injury. Behind the
bravado, a snivel.”

So ask yourself, what have we lost in all this fear? What do we not see because our eyes are made blind to it? What defines Columbine when we don’t have all the answers? And.. what can we do, what can any of us do, to halt its rise in its tracks?

Hiding in Plain Sight [2006 article]

crimeandcolumbine:

When we first got to the park, they said: “There’s one more school bus coming.” And well, the school was a very short distance away; it shouldn’t take too long for that bus to get there. I waited and waited, and I thought “where is that school bus? Where is the school bus?” And then someone’s child came in and I heard him say: “I heard on the news that there’s 25 students that were killed.” And I said; “That bus should have been here by now.”
  I left. I had to be with my family at that point. There was no last school bus. They were wrong. There was no last school bus.

– Tom Mauser, father of Columbine victim Daniel Mauser.

bunny-rabbits-doc-martens:

brainsthehead:

bunny-rabbits-doc-martens:

im-ready-for-zero-day:

thecolumbineblogwithrebandvodka:

Rachel’s body being dragged by the S.W.A.T Team. 

Every time I see this gif I just become angrier with the S.W.A.T. Team. I hate them. Why would they drag her so intensely? Yeah fine, she was already dead but so what? That doesn’t give them the permission to drag her like a goddamn doll or a sack full of trash.

I feel the same way about the S.W.A.T. Team’s handling of Patrick Ireland. They shouldn’t have dropped him from the second story library window when he was so severely injured. I read something which said that they wouldn’t have even caught him had the cameras not been rolling. JeffCo mishandled Columbine grievously, and it is painfully obvious with footage like this.

why does everyone say jeff co for jefferson county? it sounds like an organization when abbreviated that way

I know it does. I only used it because I’m on mobile, and it’s difficult to type out Jefferson County without risking typos. Not sure why others do it though, maybe it’s just more convenient.

Not just more convenient: it’s actually the official abbreviation for Jefferson County (which Littleton falls into) as a whole, with the Sheriff’s office just being a subdivision of it: http://jeffco.us/ 

Plus, I’m not going to type out Jefferson County every time I’m hacked off at something they got up to. The wild shout of “JeffCo!” is infinitely more satisfying. And I do think that these particular instances with SWAT showcasing the handle they had on what was going on (read: no handle at all) warrants that kind of wild shouting yet again.. *sighs* I’m not over them actually entering the school in the wrong location so it took them forever to get to the library, I’m really not. So unamused by the wild goosechase they had going on that day..

lupihns:

A phrase that I constantly see around the Columbine tag is “Dylan went along with the homicide for Eric, Eric went along with the suicide for Dylan.” 

People need to stop saying that.

Dylan wasn’t forced into the shooting. He was as on board with it as Eric was. In fact, he mentioned it first in his journal. Yes, he let people go, and he fired less shots than Eric, but he still killed people. He did it willingly and with a year’s preparation. And Eric’s journal shows that he was incredibly nihilistic, to the point of being suicidal. Just imagine how awful it must have felt to hate the world as much as Eric did. Saying that he killed himself “for” Dylan is so stupid, because he wanted to die. Saying that Dylan killed people “for” Eric is so stupid, because he wanted to kill people.

Saying that either of them did anything “for” the other one undermines their pain as individuals.

I agree with this 100%. I’ve taken to referring to them as ‘brothers in arms’ lately, because that is what they were: on an equal footing with one not being less or more than the other in any way. However, I do also sidenote on this that it is likely that their intrinsic and conscious motivations for the massacre may have been different. They didn’t do anything “for” each other, but they both brought something different to the table that day and it shows in the way they behaved throughout the massacre.

I would argue that Dylan’s primary conscious motivation was suicide with the addition of “have fun!”, of burning all bridges behind him until all that was left to him was to leave this world permanently. Nothing closes off your opportunities in life as much as murder does, right? It was a murderous liberation party before the bliss of death, and Dylan relished every second of it once he allowed himself the enjoyment. Death is the crowning achievement on his work. He allows himself enough time to ritualise it, to not let anything (not even Eric’s death moments before) distract him from the vision he had of the way he wanted to leave.

And I would also argue that Eric’s primary conscious motivation was that of “kickstarting a revolution” with the subconscious addition of “I hate myself a lot more than I hate the fucking world”. He became more and more subdued as the hour drags on, focusing on the bomb failure rather than on the bodycount, and from his body language near the end speaks the reality of defeat. I don’t think he ever realised how severely he loathed himself before this. He is callous with his death to the point where it might be said that all he wanted in that moment was for his brain to shut the fucking hell up already. 

Neither of them did anything solely because the other wanted it. There was unspoken agreement of “we’re in this together until the very end” – hell, the plan never was to make it out alive. Dylan cradled his own death close to his chest and shouted his elation over “finally!” through the deaths of others. Eric carried other people’s deaths in his hands knowingly and then whispered his own as nothing more than an afterthought. The methods of madness vary. Their personalities differ greatly. But the murder/suicide-pact? Equal decision, equal responsibility, equal energies.

Randy Brown on the cancellation of today’s Columbine-related Oprah broadcast [old article]

Preaching to the choir here on the problematic aspects of the psychopathy-question, Mr Brown, but the fact that Dave Cullen (alongside Dwayne Fuselier and Kate Battan) was prevented from appearing on Oprah is still one of the finest moments I believe you to be responsible for. Good times.

Randy Brown on the cancellation of today’s Columbine-related Oprah broadcast [old article]

Love, no matter what

One of the families I interviewed for this project
was the family of Dylan Klebold who was one of the perpetrators of the Columbine massacre.
It took a long time to persuade them to talk to me,
and once they agreed, they were so full of their story
that they couldn’t stop telling it.
And the first weekend I spent with them – the first of many –
I recorded more than 20 hours of conversation.

And on Sunday night, we were all exhausted.
We were sitting in the kitchen. Sue Klebold was fixing dinner.
And I said, “If Dylan were here now,
do you have a sense of what you’d want to ask him?”
And his father said, “I sure do.
I’d want to ask him what the hell he thought he was doing.”
And Sue looked at the floor, and she thought for a minute.
And then she looked back up and said,
“I would ask him to forgive me for being his mother
and never knowing what was going on inside his head.”

When I had dinner with her a couple of years later –
one of many dinners that we had together –
she said, “You know, when it first happened,
I used to wish that I had never married, that I had never had children.
If I hadn’t gone to Ohio State and crossed paths with Tom,
this child wouldn’t have existed and this terrible thing wouldn’t have happened.
But I’ve come to feel that I love the children I had so much
that I don’t want to imagine a life without them.
I recognize the pain they caused to others, for which there can be no forgiveness,
but the pain they caused to me, there is,” she said.
“So while I recognize that it would have been better for the world
if Dylan had never been born,
I’ve decided that it would not have been better for me.”

Love, no matter what

I was tagged by effyinlove, thanks sweetie! =) I don’t know who else has done this (seems everybody has, these days) so I’m going to just say that anybody who hasn’t done this and wants to do it can now go ahead. 😉

why did you choose your URL?

I wanted something that would be connected somehow to my main blog name-wise, so the ‘dragon’-part of it was a given. I landed at the ‘rampant’-part because one of the books I have at home is called ‘Lion Rampant’ and when I looked that up I found that it’s used in heraldry.. It seems to match my quest for the truth in terms of Columbine. Plus, dragons are often used as guardians of treasure and I would like to think that there is a lot of treasure within this community that should be kept safe. (And it allows me to be referred to as ‘mama dragon’, which is cool.)

what is your middle name?

Maria.

if you could own a fairytale/fictional pet, what would it be?

A tiny bumbling non-firebreathing dragon. Just imagine one that’s so tiny that it can perch on your shoulder and huff little circlets of smoke at something that annoys you, haha. Something with vicious teeth and the ability to fly for short stretches of time – just a cute little dragon!

favourite colour?

Purple.

favourite song

Epica’s Kingdom of Heaven is at the very top of my favourite songs, though Loreena McKennitt’s The Dark Night of the Soul is also an eternal fave.

what are your top three fandoms?

Game of Thrones, MCU, and Harry Potter. (I don’t consider Columbine to be a fandom at all, though it is a niche interest of mine alongside the JFK assassination and the French Revolution.)

what do you enjoy about Tumblr?

Well, I enjoy meeting people from all walks of life and finding common ground with them.. getting to know different cultures and countries through the people living in them. =) It’s pretty neat to find so many people with similar (oddball) interests!